5 Conflict Languages
You keep havingthe same fight.This is why.
Most people run their patterns for their entire lives without ever naming them. Conflict Languages changes that.
Free: your type in 10 questions. | $29: full profile, hybrid detection, 40 statements.
I built this because I needed it first.
I didn't know I had a Conflict Language. I just knew I kept having the same fights, in the same relationships, getting the same outcomes — and never understanding why.
It cost me a marriage before I found the words for what was actually happening between me and myself.
— Rob Montelongo, creator of Conflict Languages
The Framework
The 5 Conflict Languages
01
The Withdrawer
Doesn't leave because they stopped caring. Leaves because staying started to cost them themselves.
02
The Attacker
Doesn't fight because they're angry. Fights because being dismissed feels like erasure.
03
The Pleaser
Doesn't say yes because they want to. Says yes because no always felt too risky.
04
The Analyst
Doesn't go cold because they don't feel it. Goes cold because feeling it first never felt safe.
05
The Flooder
Doesn't fall apart because they're weak. Falls apart because no one ever taught them how to hold that much.
The Central Idea
Conflict isa ladder.
Most patterns aren't a flaw. They were a solution — to something that happened before you had the language for it. Conflict Languages is the language.
The Book
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